你需要和負(fù)能量滿滿的朋友斷交
1. They tell you that you need to toughen up. Your negative friend can't take it when someone gives them some constructive criticism; yet, they have no problem criticizing you. When you tell them that they've hurt you with something they've said, they accuse you of having thin skin.
1. 他們對(duì)你說(shuō)，你需要變得強(qiáng)壯。當(dāng)某人給你情緒消極的朋友提出建設(shè)性的批評(píng)時(shí)，他們無(wú)法接受；但他們卻會(huì)不留情面的批評(píng)你。當(dāng)你告訴他們，他們說(shuō)的話傷了你時(shí)，他們卻抱怨你臉皮薄。
2. They constantly judge you. A good friend is someone who accepts you unconditionally and doesn't give you unsolicited advice. If your friend is hypercritical and always pointing out your flaws, you need to fire them as soon as possible. They aren't good for you mentally or emotionally.
2. 他們總是對(duì)你說(shuō)三道四。好朋友是無(wú)條件接受你的人，而且不會(huì)主動(dòng)給你建議。如果你的朋友吹毛求疵，總是指出你的缺點(diǎn)，那么你需要盡快離開(kāi)這樣的朋友。他們不利于你的身心發(fā)展。
3. They put a lot of pressure on you. An overly negative friend will keep at you to succeed as if you're their stand-in for life. The overly negative are often insecure about their own abilities and find it easier to latch on to someone else. Life is stressful enough without someone continually pushing and prodding you.
3. 他們給你施加了很多壓力。一個(gè)過(guò)度消極的朋友會(huì)一直督促你成功，就好像你是他們一生的替代品一樣。過(guò)度消極的朋友通常對(duì)自己的能力不自信，覺(jué)得將希望寄托在他人身上往往更加簡(jiǎn)單。生活本來(lái)就已經(jīng)壓力重重了，更何況某人還會(huì)不斷的推動(dòng)你、激勵(lì)你。
4. They put a negative spin on everything. Your overly negative friend has an amazing gift for turning your wins into failures.
4. 他們對(duì)一切事物都持消極態(tài)度。你過(guò)度消極的朋友有著驚人天賦：能把好事變成壞事。
5. They want you to share everything. A true friend gives as much as they take. An overly negative friend wants you to share all your secrets (ammunition to be used against you later) but won't tell you any of theirs.
5. 他們希望你分享一切。真正的朋友會(huì)拿、也會(huì)給予。過(guò)度消極的朋友希望你分享所有的秘密（將來(lái)可以用作對(duì)付你的炸藥），但他們卻不會(huì)告訴你他們的秘密。
6. They're extremely controlling. Your bad friend has no problem shaming you for any misstep you make, and will say things like, "You're not going to eat that, are you?"
6. 他們的控制欲極強(qiáng)。你的壞朋友會(huì)因?yàn)槟惴傅腻e(cuò)誤而毫不保留的羞辱你，會(huì)說(shuō)一些這樣的話，"你是不會(huì)吃的，是不是？"
7. They give back-handed compliments. It's kind of artistic how they can say something hurtful or insulting in such a way that it takes you a minute to realize the negative intent behind it. "Look at you wearing that dress. I would never be that brave. Go you."
7. 他們會(huì)轉(zhuǎn)彎抹角式的恭維你。這是一門(mén)藝術(shù)，他們?cè)趺茨芤赃@樣一種方式說(shuō)出令人寒心、侮辱人的話語(yǔ)呢？你需要一分鐘的時(shí)間才能體會(huì)到這句話背后的負(fù)面含義。"看看你穿的這條裙子，我可沒(méi)你這么勇敢，你真行！"
8. They talk sh*t about you behind your back. Your overly negative friend isn't just gossiping about you; they take badmouthing to the next level and are reveling in your mistakes.
8. 他們會(huì)私底下說(shuō)你壞話。你過(guò)度消極的朋友不僅會(huì)八卦你，而且還會(huì)揭你的短，談?wù)撃惴赶碌腻e(cuò)。
9. They thrive in drama. Those with negative attitudes can never just chill. They have to create drama.
9. 他們十分戲劇化。那些有著負(fù)面態(tài)度的人不會(huì)甘于平靜。他們必須要搞點(diǎn)事情。
1. They tell you that you need to toughen up. Your negative friend can't take it when someone gives them some constructive criticism; yet, they have no problem criticizing you. When you tell them that they've hurt you with something they've said, they accuse you of having thin skin.
1. 他們對(duì)你說(shuō)，你需要變得強(qiáng)壯。當(dāng)某人給你情緒消極的朋友提出建設(shè)性的批評(píng)時(shí)，他們無(wú)法接受；但他們卻會(huì)不留情面的批評(píng)你。當(dāng)你告訴他們，他們說(shuō)的話傷了你時(shí)，他們卻抱怨你臉皮薄。
2. They constantly judge you. A good friend is someone who accepts you unconditionally and doesn't give you unsolicited advice. If your friend is hypercritical and always pointing out your flaws, you need to fire them as soon as possible. They aren't good for you mentally or emotionally.
2. 他們總是對(duì)你說(shuō)三道四。好朋友是無(wú)條件接受你的人，而且不會(huì)主動(dòng)給你建議。如果你的朋友吹毛求疵，總是指出你的缺點(diǎn)，那么你需要盡快離開(kāi)這樣的朋友。他們不利于你的身心發(fā)展。
3. They put a lot of pressure on you. An overly negative friend will keep at you to succeed as if you're their stand-in for life. The overly negative are often insecure about their own abilities and find it easier to latch on to someone else. Life is stressful enough without someone continually pushing and prodding you.
3. 他們給你施加了很多壓力。一個(gè)過(guò)度消極的朋友會(huì)一直督促你成功，就好像你是他們一生的替代品一樣。過(guò)度消極的朋友通常對(duì)自己的能力不自信，覺(jué)得將希望寄托在他人身上往往更加簡(jiǎn)單。生活本來(lái)就已經(jīng)壓力重重了，更何況某人還會(huì)不斷的推動(dòng)你、激勵(lì)你。
4. They put a negative spin on everything. Your overly negative friend has an amazing gift for turning your wins into failures.
4. 他們對(duì)一切事物都持消極態(tài)度。你過(guò)度消極的朋友有著驚人天賦：能把好事變成壞事。
5. They want you to share everything. A true friend gives as much as they take. An overly negative friend wants you to share all your secrets (ammunition to be used against you later) but won't tell you any of theirs.
5. 他們希望你分享一切。真正的朋友會(huì)拿、也會(huì)給予。過(guò)度消極的朋友希望你分享所有的秘密（將來(lái)可以用作對(duì)付你的炸藥），但他們卻不會(huì)告訴你他們的秘密。
6. They're extremely controlling. Your bad friend has no problem shaming you for any misstep you make, and will say things like, "You're not going to eat that, are you?"
6. 他們的控制欲極強(qiáng)。你的壞朋友會(huì)因?yàn)槟惴傅腻e(cuò)誤而毫不保留的羞辱你，會(huì)說(shuō)一些這樣的話，"你是不會(huì)吃的，是不是？"
7. They give back-handed compliments. It's kind of artistic how they can say something hurtful or insulting in such a way that it takes you a minute to realize the negative intent behind it. "Look at you wearing that dress. I would never be that brave. Go you."
7. 他們會(huì)轉(zhuǎn)彎抹角式的恭維你。這是一門(mén)藝術(shù)，他們?cè)趺茨芤赃@樣一種方式說(shuō)出令人寒心、侮辱人的話語(yǔ)呢？你需要一分鐘的時(shí)間才能體會(huì)到這句話背后的負(fù)面含義。"看看你穿的這條裙子，我可沒(méi)你這么勇敢，你真行！"
8. They talk sh*t about you behind your back. Your overly negative friend isn't just gossiping about you; they take badmouthing to the next level and are reveling in your mistakes.
8. 他們會(huì)私底下說(shuō)你壞話。你過(guò)度消極的朋友不僅會(huì)八卦你，而且還會(huì)揭你的短，談?wù)撃惴赶碌腻e(cuò)。
9. They thrive in drama. Those with negative attitudes can never just chill. They have to create drama.
9. 他們十分戲劇化。那些有著負(fù)面態(tài)度的人不會(huì)甘于平靜。他們必須要搞點(diǎn)事情。
